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10 Most common cancers
CANCER BY THE NUMBERS
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Let's take a look at the most common cancers in the United States. Most of these statistics were compiled in the American Cancer Society Facts & Figures annual report for 2012.
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Skin cancer
Skin cancer is divided into the non-melanoma and melanoma categories. Non-melanoma (basal cell and squamous cell skin cancer) is the more common form with over 2,000,000 cases expected to be diagnosed in the country in 2012. Most of these forms of cancer are curable. Melanoma, on the other hand, is the more serious type of skin cancer. It affects approximately five percent of people diagnosed with skin cancer, but is attributed to over 75 percent of all skin cancer deaths. In 2012, 76,250 new cases of melanoma were expected to be diagnosed.
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Lung cancer
During 2012, 226,160 new cases of lung cancer were expected to be diagnosed in the U.S. Lung cancer accounts for about 28 percent of all cancer deaths. An estimated 160,340 deaths were expected to occur from lung cancer in 2012. The 5-year survival rate for all stages of lung cancer combined is just 16 percent. However, for cases detected when the disease is still localized, that number is 53 percent. Cigarette smoking is the most important risk factor for lung cancer.
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Prostate cancer
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Breast cancer
5
Colorectal cancer
An estimated 103,170 new cases of colon and 40,290 cases of rectal cancer were expected to occur in 2012. Colorectal cancer doesn't discriminate -- it's the third most common cancer in both men and women. Colorectal cancer was expected to account for nine percent of all cancer deaths in 2012.
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Kidney (renal) cancer
The American Cancer Society estimated 64,770 new cases of kidney (renal) cancer in 2012 with 13,570 deaths from this disease. Tobacco is a strong risk factor for kidney cancer, as well as obesity and hypertension.
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Bladder cancer
Blood in the urine is a common symptom of urinary bladder cancer. An estimated 73,510 new cases of this cancer were expect in 2012. With all stages of bladder cancer combined, the five-year relative survival rate is 80 percent. Surgery (alone or in conjunction with other treatments) is used in 90 percent of cases.
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Non-Hodgkin's lymphoma
As you may know, one of the common symptoms of non-Hodgkin's lymphoma (NHL) is swollen lymph nodes. About 30 different kinds of NHL exist. It was estimated that 70,130 new cases of this type of cancer would be diagnosed in 2012.
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Thyroid cancer
Three out of four cases of thyroid cancer occur in women. Perhaps surprisingly, it is the fastest-increasing cancer in both men and women. A lump in the neck is the most common symptom of thyroid cancer. An estimated 56,460 new cases of thyroid cancer were expected in 2012 in the U.S., as well as 1,780 deaths from the disease.
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Endometrial cancer
Cancer of the uterine corpus usually occurs in the endometrium (uterus lining). Abnormal bleeding is often an early sign of this type of cancer. In 2012, the American Cancer Society estimated 47,130 new cases of uterine corpus cancer. Treatment can include surgery, radiation, chemotherapy and/or hormonal methods, depending on the stage of the cancer.
Other common cancers
Also called exocrine cancer, pancreatic cancer often develops without early symptoms. The survival rates for all stages combined are 25 percent for one year and 6 percent for five years. Approximately 43,920 new cases were expected in 2012 along with an estimated 37,390 deaths.Leukemia is also a fairly common cancer in the U.S. with an estimated 47,150 new cases in 2012.
Fëmijë i turpshëm
Një prind i kujdesshëm duhet t’i japë kurajo dhe të sillet me fëmijët në mënyrë shoqërore, duke i dhënë mundësinë të shfaqë vlerat e tij në ato që arrin të kryejë në përshtatje me moshën.
Mënyra më e mirë për të luftuar ndrojtjen
Mënyra më e mirë për të luftuar ndrojtjen tek fëmija është që ta lini atë të lëvizë në ritmet e tij normale, të moshës.
Jepini fëmijës kohën që ai ka të nevojshme për t'u përshtatur me situatat e reja, të panjohura dhe lëreni atë të kërkojë dorën tuaj atëherë kur ai e ndjen të nevojshme.
Nëse këndvështrimi juaj, rreth kësaj mënyre sjelljeje, bazohet tek parja e saj si një gjë e qenësishme (ekzistuese, normale për moshën e tij), atëherë të tretët- nuk do ta
"tallin" vogëlushin, siç ndodh rëndom. Në këtë mënyrë, ju ndihmoni në formimin e rritjen e vetëbesimit tek fëmija, brenda një kohe tepër të shkurtër. Ndodh, që kjo mënyrë sjelljeje e shfaqur nga fëmija, kur ai bie në kontakt me njerëz të panjohur, mund të jetë tepër zhgënjyese, sidomos për prindin, i cili kërkon të rrënjosë tek fëmija i tij guximin dhe pavarësinë. Por nëse, këtë zhgënjim e shprehni, duke e diskutuar me njerëz të tretë, në rastet kur fëmija është prezent, atëherë do ta bëni fëmijën të ndjehet akoma më shumë i pasigurt.
Çfarë e bën një fëmijë të ndrojtur?
Kështu, jo pak herë, fëmijët përjetojnë ndjenja të një frike të pashpjegueshme, sidomos kur ata gjenden përpara të rriturve e fëmijëve që nuk i njohin. Në më të shumtën e rasteve, ata tërhiqen dhe ndjekin situatën që larg, fshehur në ndonjë cep të shtëpisë.
Është e qartë se fëmijët ndryshojnë njëri nga tjetri, si rrjedhim, ata i përjetojnë momentet e kontaktit me persona të panjohur, jo në të njëjtën mënyrë.
Te disa, kjo lloj frike shfaqet në formën e turpit (ndrojtjes), të tkurrjes. Ndërsa tek fëmijë të tjerë, ky fenomen lidhet me mungesën e pavarësisë dhe lidhjes së ngushtë me ambientin familjar që e rrethon. Jo pak herë tek ata kontakti me figura të reja shoqërohet me qarje, që tregon qartë frikën që ekziston brenda tyre.
Kështu, jo pak herë, fëmijët përjetojnë ndjenja të një frike të pashpjegueshme, sidomos kur ata gjenden përpara të rriturve e fëmijëve që nuk i njohin. Në më të shumtën e rasteve, ata tërhiqen dhe ndjekin situatën që larg, fshehur në ndonjë cep të shtëpisë.
Është e qartë se fëmijët ndryshojnë njëri nga tjetri, si rrjedhim, ata i përjetojnë momentet e kontaktit me persona të panjohur, jo në të njëjtën mënyrë.
Te disa, kjo lloj frike shfaqet në formën e turpit (ndrojtjes), të tkurrjes. Ndërsa tek fëmijë të tjerë, ky fenomen lidhet me mungesën e pavarësisë dhe lidhjes së ngushtë me ambientin familjar që e rrethon. Jo pak herë tek ata kontakti me figura të reja shoqërohet me qarje, që tregon qartë frikën që ekziston brenda tyre.
Si mund të trajtohet një fenomen i tillë'?
Shumë psikologë theksojnë se është shumë e thjeshtë të ndryshosh diçka në sjelljen e fëmijës, mjafton që ai element të mos jetë i lindur. Kështu nëse bëhet fjalë për ndrojtjen, ka raste kur ajo është e pandreqshme. Kjo ndodh kur ndrojtja, përfaqëson një mënyrë sjelljeje, e cila është trashëguar nga prindërit tek vogëlushi. Një jetë familjare pa shumë marrëdhënie shoqërore, një kujdes i tepruar dhe i ekzagjeruar i prindërve për fëmijën, një metodë pedagogjike shumë e rreptë etj, të gjitha këto mund të bëhen shkak për lindjen e ndjenjës së pasigurisë tek fëmija, e cila shfaqet më frikën apo tmerrin ndaj të panjohurve.
Shumë psikologë theksojnë se është shumë e thjeshtë të ndryshosh diçka në sjelljen e fëmijës, mjafton që ai element të mos jetë i lindur. Kështu nëse bëhet fjalë për ndrojtjen, ka raste kur ajo është e pandreqshme. Kjo ndodh kur ndrojtja, përfaqëson një mënyrë sjelljeje, e cila është trashëguar nga prindërit tek vogëlushi. Një jetë familjare pa shumë marrëdhënie shoqërore, një kujdes i tepruar dhe i ekzagjeruar i prindërve për fëmijën, një metodë pedagogjike shumë e rreptë etj, të gjitha këto mund të bëhen shkak për lindjen e ndjenjës së pasigurisë tek fëmija, e cila shfaqet më frikën apo tmerrin ndaj të panjohurve.
Mënyra më e mirë për të luftuar ndrojtjen Mënyra më e mirë për të luftuar ndrojtjen tek fëmija është që ta lini atë të lëvizë në ritmet e tij normale, të moshës.
Jepini fëmijës kohën që ai ka të nevojshme për t'u përshtatur me situatat e reja, të panjohura dhe lëreni atë të kërkojë dorën tuaj atëherë kur ai e ndjen të nevojshme.
Nëse këndvështrimi juaj, rreth kësaj mënyre sjelljeje, bazohet tek parja e saj si një gjë e qenësishme (ekzistuese, normale për moshën e tij), atëherë të tretët- nuk do ta
"tallin" vogëlushin, siç ndodh rëndom. Në këtë mënyrë, ju ndihmoni në formimin e rritjen e vetëbesimit tek fëmija, brenda një kohe tepër të shkurtër. Ndodh, që kjo mënyrë sjelljeje e shfaqur nga fëmija, kur ai bie në kontakt me njerëz të panjohur, mund të jetë tepër zhgënjyese, sidomos për prindin, i cili kërkon të rrënjosë tek fëmija i tij guximin dhe pavarësinë. Por nëse, këtë zhgënjim e shprehni, duke e diskutuar me njerëz të tretë, në rastet kur fëmija është prezent, atëherë do ta bëni fëmijën të ndjehet akoma më shumë i pasigurt.
Para së gjithash, duhet të shqyrtoni ankesat tuaja, nëse ato janë të drejta e logjike. Apo mos ndoshta jeni shumë i rreptë dhe kërkoni gjëra të tepruara, të cilat fëmija nuk është në gjendje t'i kuptojë e t'i bëjë?
Një prind i kujdesshëm duhet t'i japë kurajo dhe të sillet me fëmijën në mënyrë shoqërore, duke i dhënë mundësinë të shfaqë vlerat e tij në ato që arrin të kryejë në përshtatje me moshën. Kështu fëmija do të mund te ketë një mendim më të qartë mbi vlerat që zotëron. Gjithashtu, duhet të ndihmoni fëmijën që të realizojë marrëdhënie shoqërore, të cilat janë të domosdoshme, në mënyrë që ai të dijë si të sillet dhe të mos ketë komplekse. Kështu, ia vlen t'i krijoni mundësinë për të luajtur me fëmijët e tjerë, për t'i njohur dhe për të bashkëpunuar me ta, për t'u ndjerë thellësisht i lirë, plot besim në veten e tij.
Një prind i mirë kujdeset dhe i ka parasysh të gjitha këto. /Telegrafi/
Një prind i mirë kujdeset dhe i ka parasysh të gjitha këto. /Telegrafi/
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Më shumë se gjysma e të punësuarave kanë pasur aferë seksuale me kolegun
A po ndodh kështu për shkak të afërsisë, kohës të cilën e kalojnë bashkë apo thjeshtë për shkak të kimisë, apo seksi ndërmjet kolegëve po merr hov. Një hulumtim i bërë ka treguar që në marrëdhënie seksuale në vendin e punës hyjnë gjithnjë e më shumë njerëz, madje 90 për qind e tyre ndiejnë simpati ndaj kolegut.
Të bësh seks me kolegun, mesa duket është një nga fantazitë e femrave të sotme. Të qenurit e ndaluar dhe fshehtësia, janë disa nga arsyet që i shtyjnë ato për këtë.
Anketa në të cilën kanë marrë pjesë 2.500 të punësuar ka nxjerrë në pah rezultate interesante. Pasojnë numrat të cilët zbulojnë se pikërisht çka po ndodh në kohën e punës dhe për çka mendojnë të punësuarit. 64 për qind e të anketuarve kanë deklaruar që kanë fantazi seksuale lidhur me ndonjë koleg, ndërsa 90 për qind e tyre kanë pranuar që ndiejnë simpati ndaj ndonjë personi në ambientin e punës.
Në marrëdhënie seksuale në vendin e punës kanë hyrë 54 për qind e të anketuare, ndërkaq midis tyre 55 për qind kanë bërë seks me persona të ndryshëm.Ndër ata të guximshmit të cilët pranojnë të bëjnë seks në vendin e punës 18 për qind kanë thënë që seks nuk kanë bërë vetëm një herë.
Hulumtimi ka zbuluar se ku ndodhin marrëdhëniet seksuale midis kolegëve. Të punësuarit më së shpeshti zgjedhin ndonjë nga lokalet e punës.
Si ndikon seksi në punë
Tri të katërta e të anketuarve kanë thënë që seksi në punë ka ndikuar në produktivitetin e tyre, ndërkaq 84 për qind e tyre të cilët kanë fjetur me kolegët kanë deklaruar që afera seksuale nuk ka ndikuar negativisht në karrierat e tyre. Ata të cilët nuk kanë bërë seks gjatë kohës së punës, kanë vepruar kështu për shkak të faktit që personi tjetër është dikush që çdo ditë e shohin në punë, andaj seksi me të nuk u është dukur i arsyeshëm. /Telegrafi/
Tri të katërta e të anketuarve kanë thënë që seksi në punë ka ndikuar në produktivitetin e tyre, ndërkaq 84 për qind e tyre të cilët kanë fjetur me kolegët kanë deklaruar që afera seksuale nuk ka ndikuar negativisht në karrierat e tyre. Ata të cilët nuk kanë bërë seks gjatë kohës së punës, kanë vepruar kështu për shkak të faktit që personi tjetër është dikush që çdo ditë e shohin në punë, andaj seksi me të nuk u është dukur i arsyeshëm. /Telegrafi/
How to curb sugar cravings
NUTRITIONIST Lisa Guy shares her best dietary suggestions for combating sugar cravings.
DO YOU have trouble controlling your sugar cravings? Some days it is easy to avoid things like chocolate, and other days it is virtually impossible. So is there anything you can do to put a stop to the sugar cravings? Yes, there is.
Grazing on smaller healthy meals will ensure that your blood sugar levels remain stable. It is when your blood sugar levels drop that you will feel tired and flat and crave sugary foods to give you a short burst in energy. Don't skip meals either as this will cause your blood sugar levels to drop and increase the risk of you overeating at your next meal and making poor food choices.
Also, eating protein with your meals is an excellent way to steer clear of the chocolate attacks. Protein will help to keep your blood sugar levels balanced. Good sources of healthy protein include:
Breakfast: eggs on toast; muesli with nuts, seeds and yoghurt; fruit smoothie with protein powder.
Snacks: trail mix of nuts and seeds and dried fruit; hummus with rice crackers or vegie sticks; tub of yoghurt and fruit; protein bar. And protein powder mixed with chilled water can be a good snack after training.
Lunch and dinner: fish, chicken, lean meat, tofu, egg and legumes on sandwiches, with salad or vegies, or in stir-fries and curries.
Choose wholesome complex carbohydrates that are rich in fibre such as wholegrain breads and pasta, brown rice, whole oats and quiona. These foods slow the absorption of sugar into the bloodstream, avoiding the sharp spike in blood sugar levels.
And make sure to steer clear of refined 'white' carbohydrates such as white bread, cakes, cookies, sugary breakfast cereal. These foods will only give you a short pick-me-up, before the sugar crash sets in. And will likely leave you craving more sweet things.
If you are still having trouble with sugar cravings after implementing these dietary suggestions, try taking chromium tablets daily. Chromium is a mineral that is important for balancing blood sugar levels and for curbing sugar cravings.
Read more: http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/health-fitness/how-to-curb-sugar-cravings/story-fneuzkvr-1226656052125#ixzz2V9WKKehJ
Shikoje qfar ndodh ne mremje te matures
Zbuloni disa arsye pse nuk keni fat ne dashuri
U tregoni te gjitheve per lidhjen tuaj
Natyrisht se do te lavderoheni para shoqeve kur te keni nje dashnor te ri, mbase edhe do t’ua tregoni disa detaje per lidhjen tuaj, mirepo edhe ua tregoni te gjithave cdo segment te marredhenies suaj, - dashnorit tuaj kjo gje me siguri nuk i pelqen. Nese e teproni edhe me shfaqjen e tepruar te dashurise suaj ne Facebook, ka mundesi te ndihet teper i tendosur. Ne fillim te lidhjes kushtoni kujdes per ate se cka flisni, ne menyre qe te mos e frikesoni shume dhe te mos e largoni nga vetja.
Kriteret e ashpra
Jane gjera te njohura qe cdokush i do disa gjera te caktuar te partneri i vet, mirepo nese keni kerkesa te ashpra se si do te duhej te dukej i dashuri juaj, me ke do te duhej te shoqerohej dhe si do te duhej te sillej, nuk do te jeni te kenaqura me askend. Zbusni kriteret.
Jeni kembengules
Porosia e mengjesit, ftesa pas mengjesi, pastaj edhe nje porosi para kafjalli, pas ketyre gjithsesi edhe disa porosi pasdite dhe edhe nje para se te fle gjume... Ndoshta ju mendoni se ne kete menyre do t’i tregoni se e dashuroni, nderkaq atij i duket se si ia keni vene lakun rreth qafe me te cilin po e shtrengoni me secilen porosi apo me secilen ftese te re. Nuk ka gje te keqe t’ia kushtoni tere vemendjen, mirepo kujdesi i tepruar mbase do ta ngufase dhe do ta largoje nga ju.
I tregoni per ish te dashurit
Vazhdimisht, per cdo dite, ne cdo situate. Po qe se me cdo veprim tuajin i tregoni se si ish i dashuri kete gje apo ate gje e ka bere me mire apo me keq, do t’ju kuptoje sikur pikerisht deshironi te jeni me ish te dashurin dhe se si po vuani per kohet e kaluara.
20 Amazing Facts From Around The World
- After spending 17 years underground, 2013 is the year the cicada bug is expected to emerge by the billions on the east coast of the United States. Some estimate trillions will arrive.
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- The restaurant ‘White Castle’ is Americas oldest and 1st hamburger chain.
- Mystery solved! 9 cases with 12 bottles in each case of 100 year old historic whiskey was found in the walls of a mansion during a renovation with the whiskey bottles still full. The cases were stored in the living room but when later checked discovered 52 bottles appraised at over $102,000 were now empty.
HOW WE COULD PREVENT MASSIVE BEE DEATHS AND SAVE OUR FOOD | ALTERNET
March 22, 2013
AlterNet / By Jill Richardson
Despite scientific evidence indicting certain common pesticides, the EPA continues to allow their use.
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March 18, 2013 | This article was published in partnership with GlobalPossibilities.org.
If you like almonds, then 2013 brought some bad news. Each year, honeybees from across the country make the trek to California, which grows 80 percent of the world’s almonds, to pollinate the almond crop. But bees have been dying in unusually large numbers for several years now, and this year appears worse than most.
The problems we face if we don’t have healthy populations of pollinators, particularly honeybees, extend beyond almonds. Three fourths of the top crops grown in the world require animals – mostly insects – for pollination. Odds are that most of your favorite fruits, nuts and melons are pollinated by honeybees.
Across the pond, the European Union has made major strides in shedding light on the role of certain pesticides in honeybee deaths. In fact, the European Commission has proposed a two-year ban on these pesticides. Meanwhile, at home, beekeepers remain frustrated that the U.S. government is not as forward-thinking. And, for another year, the saga of bee deaths continues.
The pesticides in question are called neonicotinoids. It’s a mouthful, but the root word is “nicotine,” because they are chemically similar to the addicting tobacco compound. The most common of these is a pesticide called imidacloprid. Two others are clothianidin and thiamethoxam.
New York beekeeper Jim Doan ended last year with about 700 hives. He began the year with 900. But those numbers hide larger losses. A beekeeper can increase his or her number of hives by splitting them. Doan did so, building up to 2,300 hives by mid-June.
For a beekeeper, splitting your hives means a certain amount of sacrifice, because two smaller hives replace each larger one, and you must let each hive build up its numbers and its honey before you harvest any yourself. “Now this will be the seventh year of extraordinarily high losses. Every year we’re making up bees but at the sacrifice of not making honey. So both ways you’ve taken a beating and a loss,” says Doan.
From mid-June onward, Doan watched his bees die. By October 15, he had only 1,100 hives. More than half of the colonies that were alive only four months before were now dead. What happened?
One can piece together part of the story based on the bees’ locations and their food sources. Although Doan is a New Yorker, his bees take a Florida vacation each winter. They only reside in New York from April to September. While there, they first pollinate apricots, then cherries, pears, apples, and finally, squash, cucumbers, and pumpkins.
In Florida, the bees spend some time in oranges, but Doan also puts his bees in a non-agricultural area for part of the year “to help build them up and to watch them die again,” as he cynically puts it. “We’re in [parts of ] Florida where there’s no agriculture. And that’s the only time our bees really look good. They look like bees… But it’s frustrating.”
Doan, for his part, is certain he knows what killed his bees. “The problem is corn dust. And I say that without any hesitation in my voice.” He’s referring to the dust expelled as exhaust from the machinery used to plant corn. His state, New York, bans a pesticide called clothianidin, which many blame for bee deaths, but it comes into the state anyway on pre-treated corn seeds. A whopping 94 percentof all corn seeds in the U.S. are treated with neonicotinoids.
“We had 148 hives killed by clothianidin,” says Doan. “We were sitting in apples and they planted field corn nearby and we lost those hives.” He moved his bees away from those apple orchards, but the bees continued dying – this time from a different but related pesticide.
Nga se shkaktohet dhembja e kokës?
Specialistët kanë zbuluar se përveç njerëzve që u dhemb koka në mënyrë kronike, pjesa tjetër e popullsisë kanë më shumë shqetësime gjatë muajve të verës, pasi në këtë kohë ekspozimi në diell është i madh dhe kjo shkakton çrregullim.
Sheqeri i pakët në gjak mund të shkaktojë dhembje koke. Ata që zgjohen në mëngjes me dhembje koke, mund ta kenë si reagim ndaj sasisë së pakët të sheqerit në gjak, të shkaktuar nga mungesa e ushqimit në stomak gjatë natës. Mund të jetë rezultat i sëmundjeve apo lëndëve kimike. Dhembjet e kokës mund të vijnë edhe nga kontraktimi i muskujve i shkaktuar nga stresi, depresioni, ankthi dhe pozicioni i qëndrimit gjithashtu. Po kështu edhe mbushja e dhëmbëve, muzika e lartë dhe lodhja e syve.
Sipas kërkimeve në Universitetin Manchester, 77news përshkruan se dhembjet e papritura dhe të forta mendohet se vijnë nga ndryshimi i qarkullimit të gjakut. Ato mund të shoqërohen edhe me stres. Shkaku ekzakt është i panjohur, mund të përfshihen disa faktorë. /Telegrafi/
10 ways to make a woman fall in love with you
After you meet a woman and date her, you get to know her better. You probably start feeling closer to her and may even find yourself falling in love with her. But her feelings may still remain a mystery to you. You’re not even sure whether you’re doing things right. How can you get her to fall in love with you? Here are 10 ways that you can make a woman fall in love with you,
and at the end of it, she’s sure to be crazy about you.
and at the end of it, she’s sure to be crazy about you.
1. Display maturity
It’s always said that women mature faster than guys and are often found complaining about how immature they act. Impress her with the way you deal with situations and your outlook on the whole. Show her how responsible you are about finances, or serious you are about your career. And demonstrate your ability to think clearly and rationally when disagreements crop up or a conflict of interests presents itself.
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2. Romance her
Make her feel good by keeping the romance alive in the relationship. You don’t have to spend a whole lot of money doing this. Sure, there isn’t a woman alive who doesn’t adore flowers and gifts, but you can also do things that don’t cost a lot but can still enhance your relationship. Write her little notes or send her a mushy card. Call her up just to tell her you’re thinking about her and can’t wait to see her again. Be attentive and make her feel cherished and truly special.
3. Faithful
Don’t ever give her occasion to doubt you. Let her know that you have eyes only for her and the rest of the world takes a backseat. Let her sense your commitment to her and your relationship. Being able to trust someone and truly rely on him is a very powerful feeling. So many people profess deep feelings and then cheat on their partners. Don’t just tell her but show her that she can count on you. Women need to feel secure and once that is established, it takes the relationship to a higher level.
4. Time spent with her is precious
Make it clear that you really treasure the time you spend with her, irrespective of what you’re doing together. And prove it! For instance, if she suddenly tells you she’d like to meet you because she’s finishing work early and you had something else lined up, cancel it for her. That doesn’t mean you cater to her to the exclusion of everything else, just that you sometimes sacrifice something you care about to be with her. If she begs you to come see a movie and you had plans with your buddies, do it for her and let her know subtly that you did. She will surely reward you! Women also love it if you do some girly stuff with them like shopping for lingerie, and aren’t afraid of sacrificing your masculinity in the process. It just makes you more of a man in their eyes!
5. Compliment her
You don’t have to go over the top always telling her how good she looks or how gorgeous her hair is or what a lovely outfit she’s wearing. A compliment has more effect when it is sincere, well timed and often, out of the blue. While a woman always loves hearing that she’s looking good, you can’t keep telling her that. It will lose its charm eventually. A compliment is valued when there is a surprise element to it. Telling her how witty you find her, how her intelligence turns you on, appreciating how thoughtful and generous she can be, or her gentle nature, all these are deeper compliments, which, when paid sincerely, make the recipient feel ten feet tall.
6. Laughter
Use humor as your biggest ally. If she enjoys your company and looks forward to seeing you again, you’re rapidly becoming an addiction, and that’s just what you’re aiming for. It’s not about making her laugh over your one-liners and finding you hilarious. It’s more about being on the same wavelength and enjoying the other’s sense of humor too. Or finding humor in similar situations or having a favorite serial or sitcom, which you talk about and cracks you up. Finding the same joke funny, or sharing a smile, draws you closer and makes you feel like kindred spirits. It’s a great feeling!
7. Learn what turns her on
And use it to advantage. Find out just the kind of touch that excites her, how she loves to be kissed. Don’t ever push her for sex or make her uncomfortable by coming on too strong. Let her see the effect she has on you, yet keep a strong rein on your passions if she decides she wants to call a stop to it. Let her set the pace, and ensure she understands that while your desires for her are strong, you will respect the limits she sets. Respect her and her body and she will appreciate you more for it. Women love it when they can see how much they turn you on and yet find you willing to take it slow for their sake. Also, when you make love to her, don’t always kiss her or caress her as a lead up to having sex. Do it just to make her feel special and because you want to convey that to her, and she will adore you for it.
8. Give her space
Don’t be possessive and make her account to you regarding her whereabouts. Let her know you trust her. Don’t expect her to spend all her free time with you. Let her have her own life too. Often when in a relationship, people make the mistake of spending every waking moment that they can manage together, and in the process, alienate themselves from friends and even lose their identity. Let her be her own person.
9. Thoughtful
You remember little things she told you, and remind her of it at opportune moments. It may be that she once mentioned she loves having chicken soup when she’s got a cold, and you land up with some when she’s got the sniffles. Or she’s told you how she adores a particular entrée at a popular restaurant and the next time you go there, you order it and surprise her. It makes her feel like you genuinely listen to her and take the trouble to act on it and make her happy.
10. “I love you”
And of course, while showing her should give her the message, there’s a lot to be said for saying it loud and clear. Tell her how important she is to you. You might want to think about when you’re first going to tell her those three words. If it's too early in the relationship, she might be skeptical that you could feel so deeply so soon. And thereafter, it's not just choosing the right moment, but making every small moment count. You don’t have to wait only till you’re kissing her, or in bed. Saying it when it's least expected makes it all the more precious. She might be telling you something and the feeling just overwhelms you – tell her at that instant. She won’t mind being interrupted mid-sentence!
3 Things Men Need To Attract Women Read
Anthropologically speaking, and as many studies demonstrate, women are looking for a provider. But that is not all. It's been demonstrated time and again that even if a man is rich, if he's too short, women will draw the line, so to speak, and let him know how tall he needs to be to get on her ride. Intelligence is reflected in emotional, communicable and intellectual terms that combine to help women determine if they can trust you. Status, personality, age, weight, and character are all secondary. For example, when women say they like a guy with a sense of humor, they usually mean 3T plus the sense of humor. Some women want 3T, plus time and attention. Money alone is not the answer. Your high income is attractive not because she only wants her material needs met, but she also wants the time and flexibility a man can buy with the money he makes. This is especially true if a woman earns more than her man. The bottom line is that her interest in you is enabled by the perceptions she surmises from seeing the other 3T elements in place. The illusion is that the 3T man will seem more confident, and therefore make it easier for a woman to submit to his lead in a relationship. How many times have you seen a gorgeous girl with a terrible guy who treated her poorly? Why doesn't a man become less attractive when he is ugly or twice her age? It's because these factors don't matter from a 3T perspective. A man can be bald, overweight and completely hairy and still be her cuddly teddy bear. Check closer to see if the man is taller, smarter than her in some subject, or earns more. 3T is the unspoken attraction, that cuddly feeling she gets that makes her feel safe and stable. Look around and you'll see. For example, a rock star like Steven Tyler from Aerosmith is old and not terribly good looking. But he is 3T as far as his income, his stature (he's 5'9") and what he knows from his talent and experience. True, he's exceptionally wealthy, but even an ordinary man doesn't have to be exceptionally rich or powerful to make women want him. It's all a matter of the women's perspective if he ends up taller, smarter or wealthier than them. Some dating advice says to go for the easy pickup, the more nave women, the unaware, or those with low self-esteem that have potential to be gorgeous but maybe don't know it yet. But the 1-2-3 of the 3T formula works on both mature and immature women. It also gives you long-term staying power along with the short-term attraction. When you first see a woman, you immediately know if you want to sleep with her, just from appearance. She would need to open her mouth for you to consider not bedding her. For women, however, it takes a lot more time because, visually, they can only determine your physical stature. It takes more time and research to find out if you are well-read or have a good income. We'll try to find out by asking around, looking at your car, or determining where you live. Women find out if you're educated by talking to you about various subjects and seeing if you can hold a conversation. If she thinks you're slightly smarter, you're in! applying 3t Once you bait with 3T, you have to close the deal and maintain the relationship. What does this mean to you? If you're already a 3T guy, that's great. You can pick up women even it you're ugly. You've had them put up with you even when you're moody or downright arrogant. You can be a jerk and your girlfriend will make excuses for you, saying you're just "confident." A shorter, less wealthy or educated guy would have been kicked to the curb already for coming across as too aggressive or irritating. If you are light on one of the Ts, there is hope. In the worst case, some women will sleep with you because they feel sorry for you, but this is only temporary till a 3T guy shows up and steals her away. You can fake it by making yourself appear to be strong or full of potential in these three areas even if you aren't. 1- Education The easiest way to get ahead is education. All you have to do is read. You can know a little about a variety of subjects, or know a lot about one specific subject. Women are drawn to experts like the Crocodile Hunter, Bill Gates and Chris Rock because they're experts in their industries. If you're in school, not only are there more women available, but you've already demonstrated to them that you're getting educated. Otherwise, it's up to you to come across as reliable and credible without making her feel dumb. 2- Salary High cash flow is more difficult. Etiquette and acting classy are good ways to seem richer to a woman because this behavior is associated with wealth. Wearing the right clothes, especially nice shoes, can go a long way toward portraying wealth. Taking on the unshaken or unworried attitude of wealthy men can project affluence. Hesitant, irresolute, bland men come across as having lower incomes and being less reliable. Remember; money is just an energy that represents some emotion for women. Money is equivalent to affection, and perhaps gives them a sense of freedom, security and power. You can substitute money for feelings. For example, if she likes the freedom she gets from having money, you could ramble around in a motor home on hardly any cash and she'll be happy. On the other hand, if she is the "money=attention" type, she'll require that you pay for her spa treatments and nice hotels, otherwise she'll feel unloved. If money is security to her, you can get by on less money if your investments don't seem outrageously risky to her. If she thinks money is power, she may be hesitant to give you complete control of it because she may feel it garners her less respect from you or her peers. 3- Height Height is the most challenging. Men have tried everything from shoe lifts to dating shorter women. Studies have shown that even if you add wealth, success, education, caring, or other desirable traits to a man's profile, if he isn't tall enough, women still won't give him a try. Great talent or power can add inches to your stature. Think of Napoleon, Mickey Rooney or Groucho; they are humorous, artistic or politically powerful men who wooed women into their beds and, horizontally, the height issue wasn't a factor. Polite and persuasive persistence is the best trait. be her dream man Being 3T or portraying 3T will definitely get you admission to the dating game. Most women don't consciously realize this formula is working on them, either. They'd like to believe it's more of an intuitive feeling or process. But you know what? Height, smarts and bucks are great guidelines when men realize how simple and effective they really are.
How do I Make a Girl Fall in Love with Me?
Confidence
Confidence is the foundation where everything starts. It’s a point where it tells the girl that this guy is sure of himself, he knows what wants, and is capable of leading her to experience new things.
a) When I mean “sure of himself,” I mean that when you decide to make a decision, you stick by this decision with full force thinking: “this decision is right.” Of course you’re not going to be “right” all the time and may even get lost, which is fine as long as you can confidently say “I Don’t Know.” Or, “I’m going to check the answer by going X or reading Y or etc…”
Yes, many guys think that you have to be perfect and know everything; wrong. If you can own up to your mistakes and be confident enough to admit them, then you differ from a lot of other men: most men don’t admit their mistakes and/or if they do they express their mistakes in a very submissive way.
Remember though, a confident man who makes a mistake, always learns from his mistake and does something about it.
b) Please don’t over think “he knows what he wants,” because it doesn’t necessarily mean you that should hold a steady career or have an exact plan for your life; instead it means that you have an idea (ideas) that you’re ready to experiment.
It is this experiment or this drive to push forward with these ideas that will lead you to figure out what you really want. For example, if one of your “wants” is to make money then by pushing yourself to make a business, find a job, go to school to learn about business, whatever… shows the girl that you’re doing things to figure out what you want.
You may not know this, but fuck, when I was 17 I thought I wanted to be a firefighter and then after training I realized it wasn’t for me: now I know that being a firefighter is something I don’t want in my life.
A man that pushes himself forward, to try and figure out what he actually wants in life, is a man that is confident. However, this point comes with a stipulation: you better have a stronger idea of what you want after the many experiments you undertake, a girl isn’t attracted to guys who are dreamers (not a sign of confidence).
c) When I say “leading,” I mean the ability to push the girl to follow your moves. For example, if you’re an ambitious man who wants to be a Yo-Yo champion, then show her your practice room and your many collections of Yo-Yos (and upcoming competitions). Then, ask her and learn about her ambitions in life.
When you do this, you’re leading or qualifying her to make moves with you. And, if she really begins to like you she will herself show you her ambitions in life (or start one). This also goes for jumping in a pool or trying a new spicy dish, lead her to follow suit.
Remember, I’m not saying “FORCE” I’m rather saying SHOW by “LEADING.”
Lead with confidence, make her believe that she can follow your steps.
Emotionally Aware & Coherent
Girls love guys that not only are aware of her emotions, but also can show their emotions coherenly. I have too many girl-friends who have complained that their guy is too stoic, or too happy, or too sad, or just too manic… You have to be able to play all emotions and express them coherently.
For example, if she is crying and breaking down, it would be fucking stupid of you to start making jokes. Or worse, be stoic to a point where it seems you don’t care. It be best to hold her, shut the fuck up, and empathize with her but also being coherent: strong.
Then, you can then start making light jokes once her emotions start to die down. It’s called being aware of your surroundings. No, this doesn’t mean you wait for the girl to express emotion and then you follow suit…
most of the time you should be leading the interaction (being jovial & excited about things)
… it just means you know how to react to her emotions.
Lastly, girls love a guy who can act out all sorts of emotions: anger, sadness, excitement, etc… you need to be able to coherently enough to show all of them, throughout your time with her, however too much of any will just hurt you.
An emotional balancing act.
Listening & Providing Help
A guy who she can depend on when it comes to decision making, is a guy she’ll love. But, how do you do this? It’s called LISTENING & EXPERIENCE. As in, the more you get out there and interact with people, try new things, read, and staying active – the more you’ll be able to obtain the necessary information to deal with a whole lot of situations.
Then, when you LISTEN and OBSERVE her moves is when you’ll be able to provide such information. Many guys give too much advice when they themselves have yet to experience it, or fucking worse, when they don’t provide the proper suggestion because they didn’t listen to her in the first place.
You can’t always talk about yourself…
SEXUALLY STRONG
This basically means you’re sexual. Period. This means that throughout your interaction with her you are always making it clear that i) you find her sexy, ii) you feel sexy and want to give her your sexiness, iii) you’re making constant sexual moves to her.
What are you? Her friend?
No, you’re a guy who she is going to love… and a guy who she loves is a guy she is going to sleep with.
Ending Notes
Saying the word “baby steps,” or “tomorrow” is not going to get a girl to love you. It is crucial for your life to START NOW and begin experimenting on what your life can be. This is more than just making a girl love you, it’s about changing your life to becoming a better man.
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